Cheating; where do I go from here?

Cheating. We have all been in this situation, whether we are the one getting cheated on, the one who is cheating, or even just a friend of the couple it is happening to. In no way is this a situation that is enjoyable. The worst part is it seems that cheating is becoming more and more common. The one, most common question that stems from this subject is: “What do I do?” Now getting cheated on is arguably one of the worst things in life that can happen to you. If you think about it, getting cheated on sucks. You commit and give your significant other all your love for them to basically destroy you, and that’s what love is: giving someone the ability to destroy you and trusting them not to. So when your boyfriend/girlfriend does destroy you, you have no idea what to do or where to go. Well there is an array of things you can do.

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First things first, you need to make sure you’re being cheated on. Check out this video that gives you the sure tell signs that you’re being cheated on.

Once you know you’ve been cheated on for sure, you can go down the “trust nobody” path and forever be victimized by the situation, or you can grow from it. Matthew Guevara, a sophomore at ASU, was dating his girlfriend for five and a half years. When he found out that she had cheated on him after all that time, he ended things right away, although his perspective on things were quite different. Guevara said, ” I tried not to take this in a negative manner. She made the mistake, and I did nothing wrong. I’m taking this as an experience to learn from, and from now on I’ll know the signs, and I’ll know everything I need to avoid in a possible girlfriend.”

Matthew learned from his experience in a growing, mature manner. Although this isn’t always the case; Casey Lane, a junior at ASU, was cheated on as a senior in high school by her longtime boyfriend. She took it almost as extreme as you can; she went into a year long depression, didn’t talk to her friends, didn’t talk to her family, and failed her classes through two semesters. This is an extremely unhealthy route to take, but then again we all deal with situations in our own ways. Lane commented, ” I truly felt like my life was over. Yes, I was young, and so incredibly wrong, but I felt like I had nothing. I turned my back on the world, including my friends and family. Thank god my parents didn’t give up on me. I’m now back on the right path and as happy as can be.”

Yes, there are many different ways to deal with being cheated on, but here is a link that gives you a couple really helpful steps on how to move on after someone ha cheated on you.

Everyone is capable of absolutely anything. Everyone is capable of cheating, and it’s going to happen to you at least once or twice in your life. Men and woman both do it. Check out this news story by ABC News that talks about how women are just as capable of cheating as men.

Whether you’ve been cheated on, or you’re the one who did the cheating,that doesn’t make you a bad person. You made a mistake of either cheating, or being with someone who would do something like that. Life will go on, and you will meet someone that will make you so happy and treat you how you deserve to be treated. Just don’t give up on looking for them, even if you have a few bumps along the way.

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Do Online Dating Websites Make Me Desperate And Pathetic?

Twenty years ago, online dating websites were looked upon as lame, desperate, and a little bit creepy. Now a days, it’s one of the most popular and successful ways people find love. Although, it can be a bit tricky to decide exactly which website is right for you, and what type of image you want to create for yourself in your profile.

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First of all, choosing the website will mainly just be what your preference is. Each website mainly offers the same type of thing, but sometimes they appeal to different ages, genders, interests, etc. Here is a good website that shows you a couple online dating services and a little about each of them. This website will hopefully make your choice a bit easier.

The next step is making your profile and choosing the image you want to portray. See, you will find people everywhere, no matter which website you’re on, exaggerating like crazy on their profiles. They lie, use a younger picture of themselves, and say they’re interested in things that they think their ideal partner may be looking for. Yeah, don’t do that. THAT is lame, desperate,  and pathetic. In your profile, be truthful. For example, men tend to lie most about their age, height, and income. Women tend to lie more about their weight, physical build, and age. You wouldn’t want to be lied to, so why do it to someone else?

Now I’m not saying you should write about every ticket you’ve received and every bad habit you possess, but your goal should be that if someone were to look at your profile, they would get a tiny glimpse of the real you. If your goal is to find someone to spend the rest of your life with, you want them to fall in love with you, not someone you wish you were.

Another tip for your profile, always put a picture. It doesn’t matter if you think you’re overweight, unattractive, etc, profiles with pictures get almost 100% more hits than those without. Cause let’s just be honest, it’s a bit sketch when you see a profile with no picture. It could really be absolutely anyone at that point. For more important tips like this one, check out this link that shares with you a couple more tips on how to be successful in the online dating world.

So you have the two major steps down, choosing the dating service that’s most beneficial for you, and how to make your profile. Now, if you’re still having trouble making your profile just how you want it, check out this video that explains to you exactly what you should and should not have in your personal profile.

Now if after all of these tips and advice, you’re still not successful in the online dating world, then maybe you’re better off sticking to face to face interactions. Either way, you’ll find that special someone, so have fun and good luck doing it!