You’ve just been dumped, what now?

Moving on from a breakup can be hard whether you were dating someone for three months, or three years. Also, everyone copes with them in different ways. Is there really a right way to deal with a break up? Yes, there is. Now yes, after a breakup you will feel heart broken, as if the rock holding your life together is now gone.  You may feel completely empty, but that will pass. You may feel lonely, and may have estranged from your friends a bit, but that too will pass. You’re just going through the natural phases of a break up, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of or worry about.

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To help you through the transition from “in a relationship” to “single,” there is a step by step process that has been proven quite useful  helping people get over breakups. First step and possibly the most important, when you’re analyzing the entire relationship, break up, and everything that happened in between, don’t obsess over it. All it will do is bring you pain and depression. Second step, reconnect with all of your friends, and keep yourself as busy as possible. Sitting in your house alone all day will only cause you to rethink your decision and that’s definitely not what you need. Step three, you’re going to go through the “hate phase” where you want to burn everything he/ she every gave you, delete his phone number, and run him over with your car. Don’t do that. Nothing good will come from that and it won’t make you feel any better. Instead, go for a run, go for a hike, go shopping with your friends; the main thing is to keep yourself busy. Step four, DO NOT CALL OR TEXT THEM. You’re going to want to text them and tell them how much you miss them and how much your life sucks without them, but you will just be making a fool out of yourself. Leave it alone, what happened happened and it happened for a reason. Step four, if you’re having a bit more trouble then usual getting over your ex, sit down and make a list as to why he/she was no good for you, and all of the reasons why you deserve better. Once you’re finished, hang it up somewhere you can see it every day. This is a good reminder to look at as you start your day. And step five, although you may be afraid of getting hurt, there’s nothing wrong with putting yourself back out there. Yes, you may not be looking for a relationship, but where does it say that just meeting new people and new friends is bad? Sometimes a new person entering your life, whether a friend or more, is just the breath of fresh air you need.

These are definitely not the only steps to getting over a breakup, and yes, they may or may not work for you, but if you follow them, hopefully your breakup will be a bit smoother and easier for you. Now these are obviously not the only things you can do to get over a breakup, check out this link to read about a couple other steps to get over a break up successfully.

Now if after reading those steps you still don’t feel as though you’ve been able to move on from your break up easier, check out this video to get another opinion on how to successfully get over a breakup.

Between all of these steps that have been shared with you today, moving on from your breakup will hopefully come just a little bit easier for you to do.


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