Love Knows No Distance

Long distance relationships are not easy. They are a lot of work, and honestly, if you are not in it 100%, it won’t work out for you. There are so many beautiful relationships out there that started out long distance, who are now married with a happy family. Although the struggle to make it through those years is anything but easy. Emilee Lee and Evan Shine, a couple who have been in a LDR for almost two years now, definitely have had their problems. When asked about their relationship, Emilee exclaimed, “It definitely has not been the easiest road to take. With me being in Arizona and Evan being in California, we only get to see each other once every month or so. I mean sure we talk on the phone and text every day, but not being with him is the hardest thing

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I’ve ever had to do. Although after we get through this together, I know that we will be able to get through anything.” When asked about their relationship and how they make it work, Evan relied, ” Honestly it’s all about communication and making sure you make time for each other every day. We went from seeing each other every single day, to seeing one other once a month if we’re lucky. I mean yeah it’s definitely one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, but I love her with all my heart, and if getting through this means one day I’ll be able to make her my wife, then it’s worth every second of it.”

Couples like Emilee and Evan are a perfect example of a couple that is most likely going to make it through their period of LDR. They make sure to make time for each other everyday, they make time to still remain social among their friends, and they make plans as to when they will see each other the next time. Those three things are crucial with making a LDR work. Check out this link to read about the 12 most important steps to surviving a long distance relationship.

There are many people that put long distance relationships down. These people will tell you that they have no chance and they rarely ever work. Well here are some statistics that show otherwise.

Everyone has their own opinions on LDR’s, if you don’t love someone enough then they obviously won’t work for you, which is understandable. They’re not for everyone. Although, Jesse Adams, a dentist in Chandler, Arizona, is another proven case that LDR’s can have a happy ending. He and his wife Jen of 27 years, started dating their senior year of high school, and then Jen went to UCLA while Jesse went to NYU. They were determined to make their relationship work because they knew that they had found the one. They made plans to see each other throughout the next four years, made sure they stayed actively involved in each other’s lives, and they remained open and positive about the situation. When asked about his relationship with Jen in the beginning, Jesse said, “It was so hard throughout those four years, sometimes we would only get to see each other once every four months. Although I knew it was worth it, and so after we graduated, I moved to california with her and proposed a year later. We are now happily married with a 19 year old and a 16 year old.”

Here are only a few examples of successful LDR’s, and there are so many more. If you are attempting t make a long distance relationship work, then always remember the few basic steps and tips to survive the time you are apart form each other. If the last two links weren’t enough information for you, check out this humorous video that goes over the guide to a successful long distance relationship one more time.

If you have any questions or want a little bit more information on long distance relationships, leave your comment below or email me at rcoukoul@asu.edu.

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How Do I Make Sure I Don’t Die Alone With 23 Cats?

If you’re one of those people who complain about how you’re going to die alone with only cats by your side, stop. That could not be farther from the truth.  If there’s only one thing you take away from this blog of mine, let it be that there is someone out there for everyone. No matter who you are, there is someone out there waiting to love you. There is someone out there waiting to share his or her life with you.

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So today’s lesson is going to be a bit different from how the rest are going to go. Usually, I’d give you helpful tips on how to keep your relationship a happy ever after, and focus on daily little things you can do for your significant other to keep your relationship new and exciting.  Although today, I’m focusing on the best advice I could ever give you; you have a soul mate out there waiting for you and it’s your job to be open to finding him/her. No matter how old you are, no matter what you look like, and most importantly no matter what you may think you deserve, no one was put on this earth to be alone. Everyone deserves to grow old with the person they love and have their own little happily every after.

Now I know now days, sadly, the divorce rate is so high that sometimes it seems as if the world has forgotten the beautiful significance of marriage, and everything it stands for.  Don’t be fooled, that “say I do until death do us part” kind of love still exists. I’ve seen it first hand. My grandparents have been married for 62 years now; they met when they were twelve years old, and now both coming up on the age of 80, they are still as in love today as they were the day the met. I asked my grandma the most important advice she could give me on how to live the happiest life possible, and she replied,“Darling, the most important thing you can do with your life is find the person you love, no matter how long it may take, and share your life with them. You’ll become one together. And besides, there is nothing better than sitting on your porch, staring at the man you love across the table, and 68 years later he still looks at you as if you’re the most breathtaking thing he’s ever laid his eyes on.”

I think that’s the love everyone dreams of having, and everyone has that special someone out there waiting to tell you you’re beautiful from across the table 68 years from now.

Now although I didn’t touch on this subject much today, if you have a few extra minutes to spare today, check out this video, which will show you step by step how to make a romantic coupon book for your significant other. It’s a cute homemade little gift that’s perfect for a small occasion, or absolutely no occasion at all. You’re coupons can be anywhere from “I will make you one free dinner and dessert of your choice,” to “This is good for one weekend away to anywhere of your desire.” You can make your coupons as personal as you’d like. I’ve personally made a coupon book for my boyfriend for valentines day one year, and he was so excited and used up all of the coupons within a month! The coupon book is an adorable little gift that will make your significant other know you’re always thinking of them.